I was challenged this week by someone who had read one of my blog posts, and thought that is was a touch judgmental. The post in question is Doggy Day Care, in which I comment on the tendency for us (i.e. me) to leave things out, and put off until later what I should do right away, if only I were motivated enough. I would like to first and foremost say that I often (almost always) write about myself, and my experiences. So, when I included the term “lazy” in my blog, I was truthfully referring to me, and expecting people to relate, not feel condemned. However, as my husband pointed out on our late night walk, I’m not Dr. Phil, and people read my blog to be motivated, not judged.
So, I apologize to anyone who may have taken that comment as a personal attack. I do believe that we often lack motivation to get things done, and although some may read into it that it is laziness (as I did initially in myself), upon further reflection, I actually believe that it is because we are over committed! I am the queen of over commitment. I do too much, and I say “yes” to far too many things. This has been slightly curbed since I got married, as my husband helps to remind me that I can’t do it all, but I believe that there are many of us who simply do too much. So, at the end of the day, when I throw my bags on floor and flop down on the couch, it’s simply because I’m overwhelmed. I’ve been “going” all day, and I need a break. Yes, I could take 5 minutes and put things away, but that takes more effort, effort that has been maxed out. Granted, my motivation is gearing up with the new addition to our family. Seeing as I’m known to over commit, the logical conclusion was to get a dog.
This handsome dog’s name is Tipper He loves my red Olympic mittens, and socks. He’s a big guy, so he can reach things on counters, although we’re discouraging that. However, my motivation to tidy up is high, as I don’t want him to eat anything else (which he has been known to do).
As with anything in life, we need motivation, but if we’re splitting our resources, we are bound to lack the energy to do the things we don’t necessarily enjoy (exercising, tidying up, dishes, etc.). As I heard last week, sometimes we need to say no to the good stuff, in order to be able to say yes to the great stuff.
Do you have a tendency to over commit?